I also fully understand where Lionhawk is coming from and had discussed this with Kate. I don't think that she is happy with is decision either. He doesn't appear to have any strong emotional anchors here to hold him and would prefer to cross over early. It wouldn't be that difficult to say C'est la vie. Yet, I would miss him and wanted him to reconsider, to stay. As he has much to offer to others, in ways of his personal experience, where they can be helped along on their spiritual path. All those years of his in-depth self-examination and exploration mean something to those who would be left behind. Does he acknowledge this? Most likely. He's not stupid.
When I said I was selfish.. it means I want him to remain where we can continue to interact and not show up as a disembodied spirit in my bedroom late at night, like Brook did. I really don't appreciate those types of visits. And if he were to show up uninvited, he would get lambasted for wasting the life he has here - to cross over sooner then later, and disturbing my inner peace.
The other part of this whole situation is that whenever I go into a frequency resonance with him, my heart literally aches. This is a mirror physical reaction to the pain that he carries within. I used to use this technique with clients all the time, so that I could mirror back to them their unconscious feelings. So pulling back was also a form of self-protection. Helping with 'an assist', to help lessen his emotional burden by carrying some of his pain - is what friends can do for one another up to a point. Then I passed this task on to my two go-to spiritual contacts and asked them to take over.
Lionhawk's Birthday is on March 8th. Happy early Andy. I hope you stuff yourself with sugarless cake and ice cream. And keep some Alkseltzer on hand.