- our reactions to what others do and say is purely our own problem
So if someone says something or does something....my reaction to it is my problem. There is only me to blame (if need be) and argue with. But since forgiveness is liberating we should just not waste our time with blame, resent, envy...etc
But what to do when someone hits me, someone yells at me, hurts me.... Can i act a "saint" and offer them my hand in friendship? Should i just "let go" and not respond in anger or sadness thus not putting wood on the fire of "negativity"? Should i let them abuse me? Will they stop if i do not fight back, will they be able to see? Or will i see..when i learn?
When in love...what is jealousy if not a need to control? What is possession if not just another expression of greed?
When it "hurts"....does it because we can not control and own?
Can a person love more than just one? Can a person experience love (in all ways) with more than just one?
- allowance of the "free will"
I see a person there...playing with high voltage cables... Should i go and tell it not to? Stop it from hurting itself? Am I interfering by doing that? It has a right to be ignorant...but than again..it might just be curious...exploring the high voltage cables... If i go and stop it....how should i do it...and at the same time....not causing some big drama and or traumatic effect....it could also be unnecessary....in case the cables might only have high voltage but very low current... Since it is the current that kills and not the voltage. The person playing with high voltage cables might also be very well aware of this... So i just watch...observe...it might get fried...than again...it might not...
Or is it case dependent?
I can go..tell others what to do... Does that make me responsible? It was an action.... I went and told someone what to do. Am I now responsible for that action?
Or is each individual responsible for what it does?
Someone goes and tells me no to bite my finger nails anymore. I get so very nervous for not doing it anymore that i simply loose control of my emotional responses. I get very agitated. In the process i divorce my wife, loose my best friend and start drinking alcohol. Who is responsible? The person giving me advice on not biting my nails or me for reacting the way i did? (btw this is a hypothetical example)
I push a small stone...now knowing it will cause an avalanche...the stone is there...it is just so small and simple...i mean...how can it hurt...it can not...right? Or can it?
How about when person itself asks you what to do? Is it than ok to answer?
- necessity of evil
Can a person learn through pain? Each war makes us more advance...in each war there are new...more advanced... ways to kill each other.
I see how fire is like. It burns, it is eating me....the more it eats the less is left of me... So if i step out of the fire...i can now recognize the benefit of not being inside the fire? But for how long do i have to endure it? I see the fire...ok i am in it...it is getting hot....it is getting really unpleasant...ok PAIN... PAIN NOW....i jump out.... I have now recognized how it is to be in fire...can I just go away from it now? Is it my choice? Or should i remain there in pain..waiting...just to be sure i really see and know how it is? Will i leave when i will be ready to do so?
Not reacting to what others say and or do (but responding as you decide)....not getting involved in what others say and do (unless asked to?)....and recognizing the "fire" at the same time...yet...only trying to get yourself out of it - is this being indifferent?
Is selfishness despite all they teach and emotionally extort....after all...a "positive" thing?
I can "elaborate" further on each point if need be. This is are just some quick "notes".